My answers don’t come to me easy. I have to dig and sort through a lot of emotions and a lot of behavioural and thinking patterns to get to the bottom. And it is just now, that I am willing to claim what I knew for a long time but did not want to really settle for.
I had this idea that some dreams are awesome and worth chasing as changing the world, influencing other people’s life, doing something to be remembered for. And I judged others for their simplicity - like being a mother or living for a relationship.
I failed to recognise ONE thing though.
If I look at my journey, the belief in True Love between two people has driven me far beyond what is simple and dismissable.
To LOVE ONE MAN, the way I understand the potential of Love…
1 I had to completely redefine what I understand to be Love. I was humbled again and again through heartbreak that was cracking my heart open and teaching that even if someone comes at me with a knife in their hand, I am able to open my heart and look at them with compassion and not hate or judgement.
2 I surrendered my neediness, my codependency, my jealousy, possessiveness, entitlement - The Love I dream into reality does not limit or dictate one’s behaviour or actions. Does not expect anything. It is a gracious representation of honour and respect, of pure admiration. I have learned through open relating how to allow complete freedom. And I have given myself the gift of seeing and feeling Love when one chooses the other, not demands the relationship.
3 Open relating and my journeys with man have also taught me that to Love One Man is only possible if you LOVE MEN. Hating all men but loving one? It is nonsense. It is not really love. It is honeymoon that will fade away the moment the man fails you in some ridiculous way and you throw him in the bag with others. Loving Men is a privilege.
4 And hence why my Love to One Man changes the world - because it influences the way I show up with every men, it changes what I say to my sisters when seeking advice about relating, it sends a different vibe to the world. And I am not teaching it yet. And it is already happening.
5 It resonates within me so deep, that I am setting myself out to speak out loud. To influence more people. To remind everyone how much capacity for love they have. How much beauty there is. How much magic. In its purity. Not disguised as lawsuits with fathers of your child, or persecution of men who have wronged you. We have lots to forgive one another but I think it is time to turn the page.
One Man
One Love
That is my mission. However simple and seemingly small. It changed everything.
I am sharing this to speak what is actually true for me. To claim it. To drop my resistance to it.
And maybe it will even encourage some of you, to claim their ‘simple’ life mission.
It all matters.
Wild love,
L
